A Brief Musing
Do you want to be successful, want to succeed? Of course you do, as do we all. Even though I am now a mere apprentice guru, a guru-in-training, being a full fledged guru is on my success horizon. As a step toward full guruship, I am, from time to time, sharing with you some secret guru stuff. My first offering a few posts ago was The Friendship Secret. Today’s offering is The Success Secret.
Success requires Focus, Focus, Focus. Your full, undivided attention is on your success agenda. You do not permit distraction or competing priorities. You continuously say, “Yes!” to your success.
Success requires Timing, Timing, Timing. You are where you need to be, when you need to be there, doing what you need to do. You are always prepared, always good to go.
Success requires Attitude, Attitude, Attitude. It is not a whatever you happen to feel about it today attitude. It is the success attitude. You believe in your success, your capacity to succeed. What’s more, you have no doubt about what you do to succeed. You do whatever it takes.
Success requires Persistence, Persistence, Persistence. You are committed to sticking to it. How long do you hang in? You hang in as long as it takes to succeed. You persist.
Success requires Practice, Practice, Practice. This is the key element separating you from the less successful. However talented, skilled, capable, clever, ingenious you are today, you can improve, can get better, can do better.
It’s simple. If you can do better, you do better, a day at a time, a month at a time, a year at a time. With your success, good enough is never good enough, since you know you can do even better.
Success requires Responsibility, Responsibility, Responsibility. The responsibility element is similarly uncomplicated. You do the right things right, the first time, on time, every time.
There you have it: your success agenda in a nutshell. The standard is too exacting? It is unreasonable for mere mortals? Perhaps, but try qualifying or limiting any part of the standard. You quickly get something less than success, an unacceptable outcome, at least unacceptable for you.
Success requires Imagination, Imagination, Imagination. The imagination element is where you may nod in agreement but miss the point.
It is pleasant to imagine yourself wildly successful and enjoying the perks of success. However, this type of imagining is potentially counterproductive. It distracts from your success agenda, from today, from the here-and-now.
Imagine yourself as more talented, more skilled, more capable, more clever, more ingenious. How much more? More than today. Concurrently, imagine strategies and approaches to get to more. Yes indeed. Concentrate on your success agenda, stick to your agenda, imagine ticking off the boxes on your path to success.
Success requires Determination, Determination, Determination. Another simple success element. You made up your mind to succeed and nothing less is acceptable. Your success is not a matter of “If.” The only variable is “How soon.”
Success requires Effort, Effort, Effort. This is where the game is lost for most. They weigh their current level of effort against the perceived likelihood of success and conclude they are falling short. They refuse to sustain their current effort and do not seriously contemplate an increase. Since your success is a foregone conclusion, your effort decision reduces to whatever it takes. You just do it.
I have shared the elements incorporated within The Success Secret. Consider them carefully to see if the secret reveals itself to you.
! Timing _ Attitude _ Persistence
! Practice _ Responsibility _ Imagination _ Determination _ Effort
Did you find the secret? I am sure if it has not yet appeared, its arrival is imminent. Please indulge me in trying my hand at a more advanced guruism.
Experienced gurus typically conclude their teaching with a maxim, a memorable saying capturing the essence of their lesson. Here is my pass at this valuable technique. You undoubtedly will have no trouble recognizing its source.
To succeed, Focus, TAP the PRIDE inside and say, “Yes!” to success.
Here’s a Bonus Musing
There is an Irish Blessing bidding, “May the wings of the butterfly kiss the sun and find your shoulder to light on, to bring you luck, happiness and riches today, tomorrow and beyond.” Think of this as Butterfly Power.
The special Butterfly Power expands, according to William Butler Yeats, to include a mysterious learning beyond our understanding, “This great purple butterfly, in the prison of my hands, has a learning in his eye not a poor fool understands.” I know Yeats limited his observation to great purple butterflies; but I have taken the liberty to expand it to butterflies in general.
At a minimum, it seems safe to conclude butterflies are pretty amazing. Taking this as given, then, Steve Bull provides a useful strategy for tapping into the amazing powers of butterflies. His idea is, “Nerves and butterflies are fine – they’re a physical sign that you’re mentally ready and eager. You have to get the butterflies to fly in formation, that’s the trick.”
Just imagine it. There you are, mentally ready and eager; but those pesky butterflies refuse to fly in formation. The next thing you know, you are pacing the floor, ringing your hands, and quoting Charles Dickens, “Oh the nerves, the nerves; the mysteries of this machine called man! Oh the little that unhinges it, poor creatures that we are!”
Is that the pits or what, your becoming unhinged over a few uncooperative butterflies? Indeed it is! It’s every bit as bad as Arthur Somers suggested, “Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained;” and that channel just keeps getting deeper.
Fortunately, there are only three basic butterflies, only three that actually matter. Getting them to fly in formation isn’t that big of a deal. You only need to identify them and then figure out where each goes in the formation.
The secret principle for getting butterflies to fly in formation is called the To It Principle. It includes three sub-principles which, coincidentally, happen to match exactly with the number of butterflies you are trying to get to fly in formation. Now how cool is that, one sub-principle per butterfly?
The first sub-principle is the Up To It Principle. Assign that one to your lead butterfly (the big purple one?). You are either up to it or you aren’t. Sure, worrying about whether you are up to it is the basis of your anxiety, what is getting you unhinged. Even so, the only way to determine whether you are up to it is to take a deep breath and get started. Worrying and putting off getting started just cuts that channel Somers pointed out even deeper.
That’s why you need the second sub-principle for getting butterflies to fly in formation. It’s the Around To It Principle. You keep telling yourself that you will get started one of these days, when you get around to it. Well, assign the sub-principle to the second butterfly and put that reluctant flyer in the formation, just behind the left wing of your lead butterfly. You either get around to it today or you likely never get around to it at all.
Okay, you are up to it and have finally gotten around to it. You are ready for the third sub-principle. It’s the Down To It Principle. This one is definitely not rocket science. Since you are up to it and have finally gotten around to it, it’s time to get down to it, do what you need to do. Assign that job to the third butterfly and slip it just behind the right wing of your lead butterfly.
There you go, your butterflies in a tight formation. As it turns out, there isn’t any trick to it.
You are nearly ready to go; you have those pesky butterflies in tight formation, leading you to your glorious future. There are just a couple more things you need to know as you pursue your success.
“Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?” (Fanny Brice)
You have a job only you can do. The job you have is being you. At the end of each day you must take a test. Did you give being you your very best?
e. e. Cummings had some words that will take you pretty far. “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” The challenge is never giving your courage a rest. That’s how you give being you your best.
Raymond Hull also had something important to say. “He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” What that means you’ve already guessed. You have to be just you to give being you your best.
You can’t be who other people want you to be. You can’t be a spider or a bird in a tree. The spider has its web and the bird has its nest; but you have something special when you give being you your best.
Judy Garland didn’t find her advice on a shelf. “Always be a first-rate version of yourself;” and Johann von Goethe’s message wasn’t a surprise, “If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise.”
Confucius was a philosopher who knew how to depart, “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.”
Go north or south or go east or west. Wherever you go, give being you your best. – with your personal butterflies tightly aligned and leading your way.