Elements of Positive Interpersonal Style
Below are thirty words that describe interpersonal traits, attitudes, or characteristics that are found in effective relationships. Your being a person with style who is good at relationships depends on how often these traits and characteristics are present in your relationships. Using a scale from five to one, rate yourself in terms of how often these traits and characteristics are present for you in your relationships with your family members. Five equals almost always, four equals usually, three equals sometimes, two equals seldom, and one equals almost never.
Using one word at a time and rating yourself on each item, think in terms of a statement that says, “In my relationships with people in my family, I am _____.” Fill in the blank with each of the thirty words below and then rate yourself in terms of the thirty statements.
1. Accepting
2. Affectionate
3. Ambitious
4. Assertive
5. Attractive
6. Considerate
7. Consistent
8. Dependable
9. Decisive
10. Energetic
11. Fair
12. Flexible
13. Gentle
14. Giving
15. Hardworking
16. Helpful
17. Honest
18. Involved
19. Loyal
20. Moral
21. Open
22. Patient
23. Playful
24. Positive
25. Predictable
26. Relaxed
27. Responsible
28. Spontaneous
29. Supportive
30. Tolerant