The Family Today:
In all of the focus groups, most participants
strongly agreed that there are more families pulling apart than in the past and
that families are increasingly isolated from relatives and neighbors. In
predominately African American group talked at length about the disintegration
of family and community. Here is a sample of the comments made:
have lost closeness to their neighbors.
grew up, more than just the parents could discipline children. Neighbors
disciplined kids too. They took interest in us, and it was love.
Lucy across the street would see to me. If I stepped my foot out the door she
was on the phone.
always had your mother and father, your aunts and uncles.
families have a spiritual life now.
are not disciplined properly. (This belief was strongly held in all of the
away now, kids say, “I’m going to have you arrested if you hit me.”
since they changed the law, where you can’t spank your kids, I think a lot of
parents are intimidated. (Contrast this perception with Ohio law wherein the
corporal punishment of children by parents is permissible.)
day, if you did something wrong, Miss So-and-So would call home. Now you had
better not look at anybody’s kids.
children are being brought up in day care centers.
spend less and less time together; you never see a family eating dinner
have changed. The parents are working more hours; the kids are left alone more.
There is not enough quality time.
movies portray violence and lewd behavior as acceptable.
Other participants in the research thought
that the issue may not be that more families are pulling apart. Rather, they
suggested that the definition of family is changing.
the character of the family is changing. If it’s a single parent family, it can
still be a strong family. It’s just different.
know that families are necessarily falling apart as much as they are changing.
There are different kinds of families now. You have homosexual families,
straight families, and single parent families; and they are strong.