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Pouts and becomes very difficult to live with:



All children have some way of handling it when
they don’t get their way. They have their own ways of reacting when things do
not work out as they want. They have ways of dealing with a world they think is
sometimes unfair.



Two of their choices are temper tantrums and
pouting. Most children use one or the other of these once in a while; and if
you watch your child, you likely will see he uses one more than the other.



Just to be fair, answer this question.
“When you get angry or frustrated, are you more likely to pout or have a
little temper tantrum?” If you do not know or think you do neither, ask
someone at your home what they think. They will quickly tell you whether you
are a pouter or temper tantrum thrower.



Take a minute to think about a child who neither
pouts nor has temper tantrums. This can be much worse than either pouting or
temper tantrums because it often means the child is just accepting whatever
happens. Even worse, he has gotten to where he no longer has any feelings about
what happens to him. He does not care or thinks what he feels does not matter.
This is a very unhealthy place for any child to be both emotionally and
interpersonally.



What is your child doing when he pouts? He is
angry, frustrated, or upset about something; but his predominate feeling is anger.
He does not talk about it or try to work out his problem. Instead, he pouts and
makes it rough for you and other people who are around him.



Think about what upset him. Maybe what happened
was unfair and he really was treated badly. Either way, his pouting about it is
a problem.



Based on your thinking about what might have set
off your child’s pouting behavior, you can say, “I’ve thought about what
happened. We can talk about it if you want to. Here’s my problem right now. You
have a right to feel how you feel but pouting about it isn’t your best choice.
I think it’d be better if you either got up-and-over it or at least talked
about it. It’s your choice. This is what I’m going to do. I’m going to do
nothing unless you choose to talk with me about it. You can pout or talk. It’s
your choice. If you choose to pout, please do it in your room.” Now, leave
it alone. His only choice is to behave more appropriately or be by himself.





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