Most of the time, experts and not so expert advice givers Are quick to tell us what to do, what to think and what to feel about most anything and sometimes most everything. They like to call it being proactive. I must admit to occasionally giving into the temptation to join in with the experts and would be experts. There is something particularly satisfying about telling people what they should do, what they should think or how they should be.
I think that most successful people have mastered this proactive approach to life and living. I also suspect they have equally mastered judgment and discretion. They know when to pass, when to hold back, when to sit this one out. Let’s see if we can figure out how this plays out.
What not to say?
Don’t say the first thing that comes to mind, what spews out before you have thought about what you are going to say. Don’t put your mouth in gear before your brain has had a chance to manage what comes out. …